Monday, December 31, 2007
I posted a banner for my old school mate's myspace music page.
If you look to the right sidebar there is a banner for The Colorful Quiet. If you click on it you can hear some of his music.
Thanks Chattyhousewife for bringing that up. :)
Saturday, December 29, 2007
Just take a listen and if you like it pass it along. Thanks.
Thursday, December 27, 2007
God says children are a blessing, right? Psalm 127
So....why are good Christian people bragging about fixing the problem of having more children? Bragging? If you choose to stop the process by surgical methods or whatever...ok I wont argue with you. I will pity you but I wont argue with you... unless you ask for my opinion. :) But goodness should it be a joke? Should we laugh about it or brag about it? Lets see how it really sounds.
"Ha, Ha, yeah no more blessings from the Lord. We could not afford them so we just cut them off."
"Yeah, we snipped those blessings."
"I cant handle the 1.5 blessings I have now. I sure dont want any more blessings!"
"I have a boy and a girl blessing. Why would I want more?"
I get physically ill when Im in a room and this joke starts.
Um... no offense folks but I am going to ask God to pour out His blessings on me.
Further more I dont think that Christians should criticize other Christians for having too many blessings.
If I hear another Christian call the Duggar family irresponsible I go in swinging. Just which blessing should they have stopped at?
My wonderful friend -who never gets mad at me when I ignore her for weeks at a time- has three of the best boys. Her third just arrived and I have made it over to hold him and oogle him.....ONCE.... I do stink! Anyways, she is already hearing all the, "Are you done yet?!" rants. She actually had a few before and after her second baby. If she had stopped at two I would not have gotten to hold her snuggly baby boy a few weeks ago. Her second boy would not know the joy (and aggravation) of being an older brother. Her first boy would have missed out on an amazing playmate. I love that she is my kindred spirit and that she thinks motherhood is just as blessed as I do. She is a much better mommy than me (and she will leave a comment saying that she is not, but trust me she is! :) ). I love getting ideas from her. I love that she will spend as much time praying and researching what is best for her boys as I do. I love her, period. I love her boys. I even like (just kidding love) her old stinky husband. He's not really stinky, he's my friend and I love him. I love how he fathers his blessings. I love how my husband fathers our blessings.
Children are a blessing and we are blessed to have them.
Its not a topic I want to debate. Just as how many children I want and have is my business, how many you want and have is your business. Dont ask me my opinion. Dont get in my face and laugh and joke about it though. Dont be surprised at my look of pity.
Father God, I want more blessings. Pour them out on our home and make me the mother that they need. Help me to be a better mom. To pass on to others what a blessing and joy having children and being a mom can be. Amen.
Thursday, December 13, 2007
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Fifteen years ago God called my husband to a career he did not want yet. Now, he is struggling as he tries to catch up to where God wanted him fifteen years ago. While I am sure he will be blessed in his obedience now, we talk sometimes about where he could be had he heeded the Lord's calling back then. Don't get me wrong. He is happy, successful and the most godly man I know. I am just saying that to say that I don't want a crisis of belief fifteen years from now. I want to stick to the path now.
I will blog about this journey as I want to be able to look back and track my "progress".
I will be weeding out things in the coming weeks that are not pointing me towards God's will for my life.
Today in my quiet time I specifically asked the Lord to change me. To mold me. To break me if he had to, so that I could be re transformed in His loving hands.
Enjoy the ride.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
My priority right now has to be my family. I am, it seems, easily swayed from some things. I have to put on God's armor. I might have to disassociate myself from some influences. I might even have to step back from commitments I have made. I plan on using this holiday weekend with my family to reconnect with them. I plan on seeking my husband's input on every area of my life. I am going to turn to him for direction from here on out.
There is a lot more going on that I am not ready to blog about.
I am still going to think about the future and have ideas. Where there is no vision the people perish. Hubby and I believe that so strongly. We have visions for our future. But we need to look at the present and see what needs to be done here to carry us into the future.
Ok thats enough babbling. :)
Dont forget to read the post about memories and respond.
Thursday, November 15, 2007
Could you share your memories of youth camp and youth group?
I want good and bad.
If you were not involved in youth group can I ask why?
To what extent do you or will you allow your children to be involved in youth group? Why?
If anyone blasts anyone elses opinion I will delete that post. I'm not here for that.
Now I know I have been absent a lot lately so my 10 readers might not be reading anymore. :)
I hope anyone who visits will answer... even if you want to remain anonymous.
Thanks so much!!
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Things are going well. We finished up our Homeschool Co Op today until January. We had a big Thanksgiving party and all the kids had fun. As soon as I find my cord to download pictures I will show you what three of my children made. Too cute.
I think tonight is the last night for dance for this year. We dance on Sunday. I might have a Saturday practice, but will have to wait until tonight to find out. They also may dance in December but I think she said if they do it will be only one practice. My oldest dances in our kids program every week now though, so she will probably continue to have practice.
Im thinking of stopping piano lessons until after the first of the year. That way I could have some free time in the coming weeks. I really really need it. :)
I took my ladies group at church to Women of Faith in Tampa this past weekend. It was so much fun. It will be in my hometown next year so we are already making plans to attend.
I have not gotten to really start Nourishing Traditions yet. Im thinking it might have to wait until after the first of the year as well. We are eating great but there are some other changes I need to make.
Well, I guess I better go get ready for dance practice.
Monday, November 5, 2007
On Wednesday I twisted and something popped in my back. I was pretty much bedridden the rest of Wed and all day Thursday. I did manage to go to a few houses with the kids Wed night after many pain killers. It just reiterated my dislike of Halloween. I really do not enjoy it at all and my kids did not seem to as much this year either. I hope we are getting closer to letting the whole holiday go from our home. There were like four houses in a row that were so scary my kids wanted nothing at all to do with them.
I am preparing to go out of town with my women's group this weekend. It really snuck up on me. Now I am scrambling around trying to get all the transportation worked out. I'm already worn out. LOL.
Hubby and I are still talking and praying over our vision so I will definitely write more about it soon.
Let me end with a verse that is heavy on my heart this week due to some news I have been following.
7So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.
8And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.
9And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst.
10When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?
11She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.
While I don't for a minute condone sin in any way, I do think when someone offers an apology, a sincere apology, and asks for help to overcome the problem, they should not be flamed by so called, reverends (or anyone else!)..... Even if the "reverend" has never uttered anything in anger that should never have been said.
Just my thoughts.
Thursday, October 25, 2007
Its such a huge step for my family.
Good night and be blessed!
I know there is a movement among a lot of conservative Christians right now to "get out of dodge" so to speak. We are pulling our children out of public school in alarming rates. We are learning to treat ourselves instead of relying on modern drugs and monthly doctor's visits. We are searching the scriptures for concrete foundations of life. There is controversy among Christians on a lot of this. Christians calling Christians extreme and legalistic.
Legalism as a term has really started to bother me lately. Any time someone does not agree with how you read the scriptures you are considered legalistic. I am a black and white person. I read the Bible as literally as possible. I know Jesus. I know grace and mercy. I know that we are not "under" old testament law. I don't think that we have "liberty" to live however we want as long as no one gets hurt. I believe Christians, sons and daughters of the KING, should live their lives differently. At a different standard even then those who are unbelievers. If I live just like the lost person next door with maybe fewer bad words what will he see in my life worth surrendering his life to Christ for?
I have heard Christian parents admonish other Christian parents for homeschooling. Apparently we should send our children to public school to be salt and light... I don't buy that. My kids can be salt and light to their homeschcool group, at the park, at church, anywhere they are and still be under my watchful eye and prayerful heart. Plus, my kids are not ready to stand firm in their beliefs. They are still trying to understand their beliefs. They know the love Jesus and He loves them. They don't know what it means to not believe in God at all. They don't know what it means when Billy has two mommies. They don't need to know it. We tell our children God wants boys to marry girls and have lots of babies. God wants girls to marry boys and have lots of babies. That's what they understand. Our job is to tell them the truth. Our job is to write God's word on their hearts. When they are older and someone has two daddies they can just know that its not right. They can defend their stance when called to question. They are not ready for that now. I will not send them out to be soldiers on a battlefield I am still trying to understand at 28. I will not send them ill prepared to be taken in by a devil who is charming, conniving, manipulative, and so deceitful.
I will write more on this hopefully later today. I have a huge burden on my heart and I just want to share it. Eventually this post will turn into our what our vision is. A vision God gave both of us.. gradually and then confirmed it and is still confirming.
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
I am participating in a challenge at Lori's blog. She came up with the idea to challenge ourselves to change 6 things about our health habits for the next 6 weeks.
Here are my six:
1. Take my medicine everyday. I am so bad about this. For right now I am on medication to regulate my blood sugar. Even though I am working to get off of it, I need to be diligent about taking it. I also need to take my supplements daily.
2. Read with my babies everyday. This is for my calming, emotional health. I always feel so guilty that we don't read together enough.
3. Raw foods (fruits and veggies with yogurt) at lunch time. I will post more on the why of this later.
4. Soup or salad with dinner. Getting in more of those raw veggies (salad) or mixture of veggies (soup). I am hoping to make the soup with homemade stock and the salad's homemade dressing.
5. Get back to making our bread 2-3x a week.
6. In bed by 11pm.
These are the things I hope to accomplish in the coming weeks.
I finished the introduction and mastering the basics section of Nourishing Traditions and I am preparing to start implementing. We wont do everything, but there is enough we can change to make a difference. Babysteps!!
Monday, October 22, 2007
As I have mentioned before my oldest is having a hard time keeping up with her work. It has been a constant struggle the past few weeks. Her attitude has improved 100 percent though and for that we are grateful.
Karly is about two weeks behind right now. I will use this week to catch her up one week and then the dates will all change and she will be caught up. With this she will be ungrounded..or off of grounding..not sure. :) She will be allowed to resume dance lessons and start piano.
There will be an understanding that she will complete all of her work everyday in a timely manner. I am working out a way that she can proceed without waiting for me. With four other children there have been times she has had to stop and wait for me on occasion. I will blog about this new idea later. She will be expected to keep up with her work though. I don't think it is too much. I mentioned in an earlier post how much work she has. Working it out on paper she should complete in two hours. I have three alloted.
I will let you know in a few weeks how it all worked out!
Saturday, October 20, 2007
Just thought I would point out how my behavior is directly related to the amount of time I spend in God's word every day.
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Once again searching for just the right title and it would not come to me. No wonder I never win any of the Pioneer Woman's contests.
I was talking with hubby about ways I have strayed these past few months from our healthy living goals. It also brought up ways we have continued making wise choices in that area. So here is a list of what we kept doing through the slump.
Whole Wheat/Grain bread or no bread at all
Extra Virgin olive oil (though the quality left a lot to be desired)
Oatmeal instead of cereal
Whole grain pancakes (only on Saturdays!)
Publix Organic milk (though I cant wait to get back to Raw milk)
Limited snacks of processed junk (though I am working my way back to none)
No Hormones/No Antibiotics Omega 3 eggs (not organic or free range, but its what we can afford right now)
Still avoided cooking with processed foods.
Lots of fruits and veggies
Now, what bad habits did we go back to?
Sodas, sodas, sodas! We went from having an occasional soda on a night out to buying them everytime we stopped at the store. We had bottled water in the house, but really who wants to drink water when you have yummy soda? Now that we dont have soda in the house as much the water is going back to being pretty yummy!
Eating out a lot. When I failed to plan healthy, delicious meals it was easy to justify stopping to grab something while we were out. Our budget felt this as well.
Some processed snack food that would be gone within a couple of days.
I put away my NT cookbook and stopped learning from welltellme. I thought maybe all of that stuff was not really necessary. While for some it might not be, but God has given me a vision for my family in the coming years.
I'm so glad that God has restored my vision of a more healthy lifestyle for our family. He has called us to a grand undertaking in the coming years and we have to be prepared. Everyday something has happened in our lives to confirm it just a little more. I will expound on some of those things in another blog post.
As for now I am studying my NT book, prayerfully. I want the Lord's leading on the changes in our lives. He wants us to change of that I have no doubt.
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Sunday will be a big day for my family.
I am doing the storyteller part of our kid's program. We have a program called Kid City that we do before the worship service. It's aimed at families. Basically we take one virtue a month and there are songs, skits, and stories for the whole month. This month is respect. We are working around umbrellas, because parents and others in authority over you are placed there by God, like an umbrella, for your protection. I like that analogy. Of course my umbrella is really messed up and has holes in it. I get to talk about David and Saul. Basically, as you all know, Saul had some issues with David. One minute he liked him the next he wanted to kill him. But while David protected himself, he still respected Saul. He had a few opportunities to kill Saul (one in a cave where David cut off a piece of Saul's robe...thats my story) but instead waited until Saul left and then went out, fell to the ground, and begged Saul to reconsider killing him. Saul repented and agreed that David should not be killed. The moral of our story is we have to respect people in authority over us even if we don't agree with them. Thats my short version of the story. You can read the whole story in 1 Samuel 18-24. I think this is a great lesson. I just hope I don't forget my lines. LOL
The second thing is my husband is going to be ordained as an Elder in our church. He and two other men are the first ordained Elders for our church so its monumental on many levels. I am so impressed with how much he has grown just in the past year. He was so strong and godly just last year when he called our former pastor to repentance, I can't believe he is now an Elder. He is perfect for the job though. Humble and willing to serve God wherever he can. He also is an awesome leader of his home. Our pastor did tell the men that they had to be in God's word daily to be an elder. He called them everyday for two weeks straight at an appointed time to see what they had read that day. Its done wonders for my guy and I'm so happy and thankful. My man gets a little better everyday and I love him a little more everyday. :)
I'm really looking forward to Sunday.
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
I'm having a serious crisis of belief. I want homeschooling to be a good experience for my kids. I want us to have fun learning new things together. I want them to be able to explore their own interests. I want to make learning come alive for them. On the other hand I want my children to learn self control and self discipline. I want them to understand that sometimes we have to do the hard things before the fun things.
My oldest tends to make everything take longer and look harder. I don't really understand this, but I do know its hindering her experience. She will take all day to complete her work and then have at least one hour of corrections. Here is a sample of what we do:
Math: Lesson, timed fact sheet, worksheet (usually only one side)
Grammer: Lesson, about 10-20 questions to cover material learned and review
Spelling: Pretest, discuss and copy rule, first worksheet. The next day we finish the worksheet and take the test.
Handwriting: Day one: book worksheet, Day two practice sheet and final copy
I don't think this should take all day long. I teach the math and grammer lesson and go over the spelling lesson and then she takes off on her own. We sometimes do Latin together in the morning. I am trying to establish a Bible lesson a little better as well.
I guess what I really need to do is get to a place where I can show her what she is missing. Make sure there is "free" time in the afternoon where the kids who finish their work can explore their own interests.
Right now we have taken away her extra curricular activities like dance and piano. We want her to understand that sometimes we have to do stuff we dont like to do in order to do things we want to do.
We need to work more on "life" skills as well. I'm going to order a couple of home economics books. Maybe I will just start these with the younger girls while she does school work.
It's just hard to know what to do. Some would say I need to meet her where she is at, but its not that she cant do the work she has flat told me she just does not want to. Some would say I am traumatizing her by not letting her do the extra stuff. My instincts tell me that this is a battle with my strong willed child.
I could tell you horror stories of the attitude problems we have had lately. She is slowly coming out of those only by prayer and sheer force of will on our part. I think school is just one more battle we have to fight with (and for) her.
I want her educational experience to be fun and rewarding and I think one day it will be. She has to be willing to work with us though. We have to prepare her to be able to function in the world one day. We have to prepare her to be able to hear the call of God and be obedient to Him. (Another blog post on what we are all learning in that area soon.)
Well those are just some thoughts roaming around in my head as I look at my oldest still stubbornly sitting at the table doing only the minimum. Dinner will be ready soon, then it's Bible and bed and start the next day. I wonder how many days she will have to sit at the table all day long.
Monday, October 15, 2007
I could not come up with a clever title.
We got a late start on today. The children are just now finishing up their morning glass of kefir. I really need to get serious about finding some grains. Right now I use the Lifeway brand from Publix, but we go through about two bottles of that in two to three days. They also had oatmeal for breakfast. One of the changes I hope to make in the coming weeks is to begin soaking our oatmeal overnight. I'm still reading up on the whys of it and I will blog about it the more I understand it.
I am also going to talk to hubby about taking the kids off of tap water. It will mean our grocery bill goes up slightly because all we drink is water so that would mean at least one maybe two more cases of bottled water every two weeks. Once again still working through most of the whys of this change and will blog about it when I understand it better.
For lunch today we will have plain yogurt with honey and cinnamon. I will slice some apples up as well. The kids love that.
For dinner we are having the Perfect Pot Roast, with steamed broccoli and salad. I have been using the book Saving Dinner by Leanne Ely for the past month and we have loved it. She has a low carb addition I am thinking about exploring.
We have some extra homeschooling to get done today so I'm going to skip Latin again this week. I skipped it last week also. Its ok, we just take Latin at our own pace. The kids enjoy it and I try not to make it a tedious, have to do thing.
I want to get into the girls' closet and start decluttering and organizing. Today is wash day for all of our bedding. I start with the girls' quilts because they have to hang dry. I do my comforter second because it takes two turns in the dryer. Then I do the boys' comforters and lastly the sheets and pillowcases. It takes all day. LOL. I have to scrub the floor around our toilet. We have a leak or something so it is going to take some extra cleaning. I also need to make some bread today.
I am going to stick to my way of making bread for the time being. I am reading up on soaking grains and sour dough and other stuff in NT, but its not a change I'm going to make right now.
Well, I better get going. Its time to start our morning chores...at 12pm. Yes, we are way off this morning. LOL.
Sunday, October 14, 2007
I figured while the house was quiet I would focus on reading through the Nourishing Traditions thread on the welltellme site. I am very intrigued with the experiences of cooking NT. They range from "Yuck" to "Yum". But most people have said that even if they never made another recipe from NT they would never part with the book, because of all the other benefits and information. I will admit my eyes glaze over when I'm reading the information part of the book. I have to take that in small doses. But I am noticing that it is easier to understand and comprehend as I read a little bit at a time. I have been reading through some of the recipes. I'm still debating on where to start in the implementation process. I have not been able to buy raw milk for a few months now because it's $5 for a half gallon and money has been tight. I miss it though. We are finally getting back on budget and I'm looking forward to picking up my milk again next month. I think I will spend the rest of this month coming up with a plan for next month. I will note some of the things I would like to start out with in the book and work from there. Its definatly not a book you can just open and start making stuff. It takes planning. I'm also going to use the rest of this month to get my kitchen ready to roll. I have some cleaning and organizing and decluttering to do in there. I can't function in a cluttered kitchen. Thats why we have not had any bread for about 2 months now. My kitchen is out of control. I have some ideas for ways to improve it, but thats another blog post.
My blood sugar has been pretty good the past few weeks. Though I have been taking the Glucophage. I really need to focus on diet, excercise and natural supplements to get off of this drug. My Dr. wants to put me on another drug in addition to the Glucophage, but I am holding off on that for the time being. I have to go get some lab work done and I did not see my Dr. last month. I did not make the appt on the way out of the office and then never thought about it again until the end of the month. I have to call and set up an appt for this month...soon I guess. I decided to drop my diabetes class I was supposed to go to every month. For starters it was going to cost me $150.00 for every class and then the first meeting the lady was very skeptical of my goal to get off of the medicine with diet, excercise and natural supplements. She actually laughed when I told her I use Stevia and not Splenda and that I take Cinnamon to help regulate my blood sugar. She said that she could not approve of either of those things. I figured I was not going to waste $150 every month for 6 months to be lied to, did not seem worth it.
The good news is, they think I am still in the early stages, so I do not have a lot of damage. My goal is to keep it that way.
Well, I have written a lot and now I'm going to lie down. I think we are going to take a hike this afternoon at one of the state parks if my stomach calms down, which it will in the afternoon. It always does. The excercise and fresh air will be good as well. I want to rest for awhile. I'm going to post more on changes in our diet in the next few days.
Friday, October 12, 2007
We also have a new chore list set up for the kids. I think my Adrian needs more work though. He is a bit lazy and I think more work is just the thing. LOL.
I have been busy transferring my links from IE to Mozilla. DH says they are supposed to transfer automatically. I think he is tricking me. :)
I have been spending a lot of time browsing through my Nourishing Traditions book and also reading through the Well Tell Me boards. We have been doing well with the changes we have already made that I'm ready to make some more. I have jumped back on the diet soda wagon, so I really need to get off of that again. All that fake sugar is sure to kill me. :)
I miss blogging so I want to get back in the groove this week. Its just been the least on my list lately.
Ok thats all for now. Off to make some pancakes with real maple syrup. YumO.
Monday, October 8, 2007
I don't know if I mentioned this, but my DH's dad was hit by a car about two weeks ago. The EMT did not think my 75 year old father in law who fell and hurt his leg and hit his head should go to the hospital. My FIL said, "OK." Three days later he was in the ER finally being diagnosed with two fractures that required surgery and pins. He is in rehab now. Dh went down last weekend by himself to check on his mom and visit his dad. This weekend I and the two older girls went with him. It was a last minute decision. Thats why I did not update Friday evening. Also, I was busy transferring my blog roll to Firefox.
Anyways, that was my weekend. I hope to have some time this afternoon for an Inspirational blog post and maybe another post.
Friday, October 5, 2007
Im going to try to post an inspirational blogs post later on today.
Saturday, September 29, 2007
Friday, September 28, 2007
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
I received Biblioplan in the mail and I think I will like it but we can't start it until we get the spine book. For us it will either be Usborne Internet Linked Encyclopedia of World History and/or Story of The World Volume 1. Want to hear something hilarious (not really) I thought I would not need SOTW and gave it and my activity book away to a friend. Her daughter loves it so there is no way I can ask for it back.
*Banging Head Ferociously* I might not buy the textbook just the CD this time. I do think I will look into getting the activity book again though. I thought I'd already ordered the Usborne book, but I have not. I have to wait until Thursday or Friday to get it.
As for science I still have not purchased anything to use there. I know (I think) what I want, but I have to buy a little at a time. I'm going to start with the DVDs I mentioned in this post. Then I will start purchasing the books.
I really should have been in our second year history and science cycle.
Should I even discuss Latin????? We are on Chapter 2 in Prima Latina. We technically "started" it 4 or 5 months ago.
Same with Bible. I have not even started it.
I know why. I'm starved for time right now. I plan on blogging about it soon, but there are raw spots I'm not ready to pick at right now.
I'm sorry if I have seemed whiny and depressed lately. Its my season for it I guess. I think it helps sometimes to see the grungier side of homeschool life. I know something I struggle with is keeping up with the "Ubers", you know the uber homeschool family. LOL.
Oh well the baby is ready to go night night whether he thinks so or not. :)
Monday, September 24, 2007
How many kids of your own do you have and how many foster kids?
All the children I have right now (5) are foster children. We should begin the adoption process on our three girls sometime next month and then it could take MONTHS to finish it. As far as children of our own we pray everyday that God would open my womb. We have faith that He one day will... kinda funny story. The state of Florida says you can only have five children in your home as a foster parent. (Sometimes they make exceptions as you saw) Hubby and I were discussing it one day and wondering maybe if we were not supposed to adopt our five children from the state and then God would give us our own biological children. We know we would love to have a big family so we are kinda wondering if that is God's plan because like I said before we both firmly believe that the day will come when I have my own baby.
How do you give the foster kids the sense of stability/permenancy that they deserve and need even though they and you know they will be moving on again?
PRAYER! The minute the child comes through our door we pray pray pray over them. Claim them as our own and cover them with protection. One thing you dont know is what kind of evil these children have attached to them. We just start at the beginning and pray it all off of them. No we dont wail and scream and shake the child. We simply hold him and claim him as our own. My husband claims fatherhood over the child which puts him in the spiritual leader seat. We believe that as long as that child is with us God recognizes us as his parents. We also have a policy that we will keep the child until they go back to thier parents. NO matter how difficult. Now of course we would have to reevaluate this policy if a child entered our home who was a threat to any other children already in our care. We also accept each child as our own for however long he is here. We take them on trips, to family outings, out to eat... whatever we are doing. Now this might sound like common sense but believe it or not some foster children spend more time away from thier foster family then they do with them.
How long do you typically have foster kids?
Well in the year and 3 months we have been doing this we have had our 2 year old for one year and 3 months. We had two little girls from Labor day til the middle of October. We have had our two girls since the middle of October. We got a little boy the Friday before Mother's day and he is still here probably will be til after the first of the year. We got another two year old right before the fourth of July and he went home this week. We got our other little girl in the middle of July and will be adopting her. So out of 8 children so far we have only had three leave us and they were only here for about a month.
Do they get along well with your own kids?
We dont have children of our own but I will tell you I am amazed at how well all the different children get along. They basically behave like siblings. Fighting one minute defending to the death the next. They are all rather bossy but seem to handle each other well.
How do you assure that your own kids' needs are met while meeting the special challenges associated with many foster kids?
Honestly, we have not had hardly any special challenges. I believe that prayer has kept us from some of the tragic stories you hear about these foster children. Believe me when I say all of these children in my home right now have every right to be bitter, resentful, distrustful.. but they are not. They are happy well adjusted little people. Just like anyone else's children. They get into trouble like other's children as well. They are by no means perfect but I have not seen any behavior that is not typical for another child thier age. I have had someone at almost every agency we have worked with remark that my children do not resembe typical foster children. All I can tell you is that God is the authority over our children. We establish that day one by giving the child to God. We also use consistantcy. Consistant love, consistant discipline, consistant expectations. The children THRIVE on consistency. Its like I tell most people about my eight year old who is my biggest challange to date behavior wise... she has had eight year of inconsistant harsh discipline. With one month of consistant loving discipline I alread see changes in her. Such as true repentance when she does wrong and a heart seeking after God.I love being a mommy no matter whose children they are. All of my children but one call me mommy and the one who doesnt came from a very loving home where his mom made some mistakes.
God gives us strength patience and perserverance when we think we cant take one more step. We are so blessed to be the parents to these children and if we had our way we would NEVER stop fostering. I hope I answered all of your questions. I hope others would feel free to ask questions about fostering. There is a lot of stuff not understood. One thing is sure though we need good solid Christian homes to foster. Too many times these children are put in a godless home where they are given the basics but do not get hugs and I love yous. One goal I have for each child in my care is that they leave my home knowing the words to Jesus Loves Me. If they can sing that song then they can understand that they are never alone and that Jesus always loves them.
Sunday, September 23, 2007
Friday, September 21, 2007
I dont claim the title of adoptive mom proudly. I claim it humbly. I know that God was the author of the whole thing. I know I had nothing to do but be His willing servant. But I do claim the title. I claim it boldly. I claim it loudly. I claim it for all to hear and to be willing to come forth with questions.
In the next few days I will be reposting some of the blogs I put up about our adoption/fostcare experience. I hope to spark an interest in some that will lead to good homes for these lost children.
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
It seems like things have just happened lately. I dont know. First the whole thing with my mom and the runaway. Then I had strep throat. Then my cousin had her accident. Then we ran out of money, literally. Now, my cousin's accident has made a huge dent in our extended family. Accusations, lies, deception, and... the list goes on. I guess you dont really know people until crisis hits.
Also I just cant seem to get it together. I seem to always be running around like a chicken with my head cut off. Last week for instance something told me our co-op started at 11. I showed up at 11 with plans to meet my mom and pick up something while the kids were there and be back in time for second hour. Co-op starts at 10. Yeah that was embarassing, but that has just been my life lately.
Im so disorganized and forgetful. I know I just need to get back into a routine of some sort. We have added a few extra activities to our menu this past month and I know thats part of the problem. I just have to work it all out. I cut back on some extra activities as well. I am gone from the house for the most part two whole days a week. Some might think thats excessive, but we are investing in activities that are important to our family. I really need to get to a place where Tuesdays and Wednesdays have minimal housework and schoolwork. That would mean I need to really be on the ball Monday, Thursday and Friday.
Anyways, just wanted to document this chaos so in a few months when God has calmed me down some , I can see it and laugh.
I try to keep my joy and smile. Some days its hard. Im not trying to be fake when I smile and laugh about life in general. I just believe in fake it til you make it. Believe me if I let this past month really be a barometer for my emotions I would be one sick puppy. LOL. Probably curled up in the fetal position, sucking my thumb. But I believe that if I "pretend" to be joyful and try to find the funny, I will find the joy.
I hope that makes some sort of sense. Im not faking it as much as trying to get through it. :)
A Second Generation of Homeschooling: I love, love, love this blog. Not only is Mrs. Lisa a homeschooler she is an adoptive mommy. (Special place in my heart) She always finds the best homeschooling/family articles and posts them. I don't think I have ever stopped by there and not learned something of value. Chocked full of great information be sure to check it out.
Fish In My Hair: Laugh. Out. Loud. funny. I go here every day just to laugh. She is not preachy, but she has a beautiful spirit. She loves her children and they all sound like they have a great time as a family. Mrs. T.C is quiet popular in the blog world, known for her great posts and sense of humor.
Clothesline Alley: This trip to the clothesline is always fun. Mrs. Brigham brings insightful posts and great advice into her writing. She is a young wife and mother and has a beautiful baby girl. I like to see what she is up to every few days or so, because I am always sure to walk away with something new.
Clark Chatter: Another homeschooling, adoptive mommy blog. I like to read about her struggles with some of her adopted children, because I can nod my head. There is just something about having someone to agree with who has been there and done that. LOL. Mrs. Ginger takes her job as wife and mother seriously and I'm thankful for it as I learn so much. She also has great pictures of her kids on the blog so swing on over and check it out.
Musings of the Dings: One of my new all time favorite blogs. I know, I know I'm starting to sound repetitive, but Mr. and Mrs. Ding really do have the greatest information. They are homeschooling parents and I get really excited when I get to head over to their blog. I'm always printing something to read later or reading it out loud to hubby. I got some of my "free" preschool ideas from them. I also learned how to be a bit more patient while asking the children questions. Set your timer if you head over there because this is one of those blogs you could get lost in.
Well ladies there you go! I hope you are enjoying some of these hidden treasures I have been sharing. Some probably wonder do I sit at my computer all day and read blogs. LOL.
No, I read as many as I can during my computer time and then the next day pick up where I left off. Of course I have a few that I HAVE to check every day.
I like to read about what others are doing. Most of time when I'm done reading I will feel refreshed and ready to pick up the rest of the day. Its nice to have a "visit" with these ladies through their blogs.
Thursday, September 13, 2007
My cousin had surgery today and it went really well. A lot will depend on her therapy now. Fortunately we were able to get her therapy over here where we live, so that will be a huge blessing. Her family in West Florida is unstable at best. Here she has aunts, grandparents, cousins, and our churches have all offered to help out and support her. My mom is due home on Saturday so I will know a lot more then.
Tomorrow I want to do another Inspiring Blogs post.
Hopefully this weekend I will have some more pictures of the kids to share.
I have some homeschooling updates, I would like to write about.
Plenty of stuff out there for me to journal, just not enough time.
Anyways, just wanted to check in and say hello and thanks for all your prayers.
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
Monday, September 10, 2007
Sunday I received a phone call that my cousin's 16 year old daughter had a diving accident. I dont know all the details but I know she could not feel her legs. We have heard three different stories. My uncle, her grandfather, says that she fractured her vertebrate, but has some mobility and feeling in her legs. My cousin, her mother, says she will never walk again and her father is in denial. My uncle's ex-wife, her grandmother, says the Drs. still dont know they are running test and pumping drugs into her body to try and stabilize her spine better. They will know more this afternoon. I should pause here to say none of the above are very reliable. My mom and her sister drove over to West Florida today where my cousin is. I will know more for sure once they get there.
Please remember her in prayer as well as her family.
Friday, September 7, 2007
This is an awful picture of her. She is cute and charming. The only other pictures I had of her were so unbelievably unflattering I could not bear to post them.
A lady from church got a phone call last Monday that our fugitive was in an extended stay hotel. My mom drove her little Ford right on out there and waited patiently. Finally she saw the girl round the corner. Mom followed her in her car around the corner and parked right in front of her room. She then called the police who came and arrested the girl.
Thursday, September 6, 2007
Wednesday, September 5, 2007
Please remember a friend of a friend in your prayers. His children were in an awful car accident in South Carolina over the weekend and his 16 year old daughter was killed. Her 14 year old brother has to have a spinal fusion which is a steel rod in his back which will limit his movements severly. The 17 year old son is doing pretty good and hopes to be released on Friday. Their mother and her boyfriend was burned badly when the truck they were in exploded.
Please just lift this family up to God in prayer.
Monday, September 3, 2007
I had some cooked lasagna noodles.
I had tomato sauce
I had seasonings to turn the tomato sauce into spaghetti sauce
I had cheddar cheese, but no mozzerella or parmesean.
I'd seen a recipe in a magazine that used cream cheese and sour cream.
I had cream cheese and plain yogurt (which we use in place of sour cream)
I did not have any meat thawed, but I did have some beans.
I cooked the beans and spaghetti sauce together.
I mixed two packages of cream chees with a couple of cups of plain yogurt and mixed in the cheddar.
I made it up like lasagna and my family loved it! It was very rich so everyone was full with one helping.
We usually eat this at church. Our church has Panera rolls every Sunday morning so its a treat for the kids.
We get to bring home leftover Parnera bread, so I grabbed a couple of loaves and we had egg salad sandwhiches.
I had eggs.
I had mayonaise.
I had dijon mustard.
I had seasonings.
The kids loved the sandwhices.
Had the leftover lasagna and bread.
I always have a good supply of oatmeal.
I will let you know what we had for lunch and dinner later. Im still not 100% sure what that will be.
I woke up feeling achy and with a sore throat. Im going to take some garlic and vitamin C and see how that works out. I will probably also drink some Thera Flu just to get me through today. Fortunatly, hubby is home today and will probably help out.
As for the other drama in my life some people from church got a lead on what hotel the girl is staying at, so they are there now staking it out.
Have a blessed Labor Day.
Saturday, September 1, 2007
Personally, I think the state should remove these children from thier money seeking parents. Who would sell thier child??????????? Thats what I think this was. A get rich scheme for the parents. The first thing that would have stopped me is.... well the whole stupid thing! Not being able to contact your child for 40 days! What?! Signing a release that if your 8 year old contacted a STD you could not hold CBS liable! WHAT??? Signing another release that says if your child is injured or died you cant hold CBS liable! What?!?!?! Talk about throwing your children to the wolves!
Take cinnamon every day - this is supposed to help in regulating blood sugar. This has been helping a lot. My blood sugar actually dropped almost 100mg within a few weeks of starting this. Of course Im also on medication, but the Dr was impressed with how well I seem to be doing.
Finish Cleaning and organizing the Master bedroom, bath, and closet. I have one corner of the Master Bedroom to finish. I will then move to the bath and closet which should only take me about a week. Our bedroom was filled with junk. I contemplated taking before pictures but, I was to embarassed. LOL. This project is something I can only work on a little at a time between maintaining the rest of the house and raising my children so its going a little slower. But there is definate progress.
Get our playroom closet setup. We did not get the shelves up so this never happened. Im hoping that since we have a long weekend this weekend we can really buckle down and get this done.
Start planning for Christmas- the kids and I are making most of the gifts so I want to make sure we have plenty of time. Karly and I got the pattern and the test fabric for our first project. We are going to start working on it this week. I have planned the other projects and will begin collecting supplies in the next few weeks. So we can get started.
Pay off our car - we only owe a little over $1,000 dollars and we have an extra paycheck this month. WOOHOO. Unfortunatly this money went to something else. Something unexpected. Its ok. It just means I have to make 2-3 more car payments instead of one big one.
Sort boys and girls clothes and minimize. Another big project that has to be done on a few different days. I was not able to get to it this time. Im going to try to do it in September to get ready to pull out the cooler weather clothes in October.
Plan meals and do prepwork ahead of time. I did not do good here at all. I really need to work on planning our meals better. I will say that I am almost the proud new owner of Nourishing Traditions. It should arrive any day now. I have also been really researching some sites that have great information. But I will save that for another post.
There you have it boys and girls. All in all Im pretty pleased with the progress I made in August. Considering the wild and crazy month it turned into I think I accomplished a lot. LOL.
I have some great plans for September. Maybe it will be a little calmer. :)